You Can’t Force Love

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You Can’t Force Love

No one likes to be controlled or told what to do. No one.
So why do we, as salespeople, still try to pressure clients
into saying “yes”?

From the start, every potential buyer sees the salesperson
as a source of pressure.
Even if we’re polite and professional, the instinctive response is resistance —
because people expect to be pushed toward a decision.


Why clients resist

Think back to childhood —
when your mother made you clean your room or do homework.
She meant well, but you hated it.
You didn’t learn to love cleaning. You just learned to obey — reluctantly.

That emotional memory sticks with us.
Any “you should” still triggers the same defense mechanism.
That’s why logical persuasion so often fails.


The smarter approach

Instead of pressure — ask questions.
Instead of convincing — guide discovery.

“Many of our clients never realized
how much more they could earn from property abroad.
Imagine — instead of 9% on a 3-year deposit,
you make 130% in real estate returns.
What would you do with that extra profit?”

This isn’t manipulation.
It’s mental visualization
letting the client feel the benefit before deciding.


The Core Rule

Your goal isn’t to sell.
It’s to help the client see a better version of themselves
after buying your product.

Pressure creates resistance.
Understanding builds trust.
And trust closes deals.